WE’D LIKE THEM TO BE DIFFERENT THAN THEY ARE We‘d like them to be different than they are, those whom we love: more social, quieter; smarter, less know-it-all, less self-effacing. More passion would be nice—the kind we like— with half the current drama. They should be less nosy, more concerned about our needs. Sometimes our loved ones make us want to scream with a small habit that they just can’t shake; it would be wonderful if that were fixed. They think they’re trying hard, but just imagine what they could become with a bit more effort.